Cut The Apron String- Yubw8n?

Disrespectful Drama

I am not a parent...but I can spot things that apparently
go un-addressed by those who wish NOT to see. Let me explain one example...bear with me~

I have come to the conclusion that I have little tolerance for children who are blatantly inconsiderate & disrespectful to others. This is really apparent when these ‘children’ are adults who take advantage of their parents, peers, provisions, & privileges. When these children continue to suck long & hard on that silver spoon that apparently has been left in their mouth for way too long, this parental error in judgment is only going to enhance any flaw in their child's character, personal pursuits & overall ambition.
When is the apron sting to be cut & by which party…the child or the parent? Someone please ~ give these type of people the ‘grow up & be independent’ scissors.

Stop explaining your actions or lack of, & let go!
Most parents in this situation probably are not anticipating grandchildren. Afterall, who would want to raise both the husband/father & the children? Think about it. The boy can’t even take care of himself at this stage of the game. He still lives at home! The independent gene is not working yet. Why should it...everything is given to him & what's worse ~ it is silently expected to be. So who is to blame here? For whatever the unexplained reason, the drama continues to go undisciplined, unacknowledged, unresolved, & inexcusable. Take a moment, step back ~ look closely at this real life version of the movie: "Failure to Launch" an adult male who overstayed his life at home with his mommy & daddy. Really? Yeah, this happens in real life too.

Folks...this drama is played out every day in our society. Parental abandonment issues grip tightly to the 'Do it for me' offspring & the circle is complete. But who is responsible for letting go~ the adult parents or the adult child? You would think that it would be a mutual want for both. Not always the case. Parents ~How can you enjoy having your child home for the holidays if he's never left? When should parents stop 'giving in'just so he won't leave? It is a fact of everyone's life ~ Growing pains are beneficial. But you have to be willing to let go to become close as adults. Take the role you are given. Be the parent. Be the adult child. Step in to the next stage of your life. You will enjoy it.

My last comment would be pretty blunt: Hello ~ little mama's boy ~ grow a pair! Take that spoon out of your mouth & move on with your adult self! Ask yourself what everyone wants to ask you...Yubw8n?

**Please note ~ any injury or improvement to your parent-child relationship due to the nature of this blog is purely unintentional. (LOL)

"I Love You Even When...."

Having just overheard a mother speak in a demeaning manner while she reprimanded her adult child in a public setting, I believe this story needs to be shared. Fortunately, the daughter proved wise and respectful in this scenario. She looked at her mother, said “Mom, I love you even when…”

What a shame that this kind of scene is more common than not. Although, in most situations, the calmness of the daughter’s reply is not as prevalent. Most of the responses are wrapped in anger and defensiveness at having been publicly reprimanded as the duties of parenthood were over scripted so they could be ‘heard’ in an authoritative role.

I remember a presentation regarding these familiar Bible verses: “Children, Obey your parents… (Ephesians 6:1) Parents/Fathers, don’t exasperate your children... (Colossians 3:21)”
When you are a ‘child’ you obey or you will be disciplined. And as a parent you teach right and wrong by example and with mutual respect to your child. As maturity in years evolves, the adult is no longer 'the child' and possibly a parent as well. Then it becomes obedience in the form of respect…from both.

Parents...never step on the emotions of your children to exercise your parental platform. And as an adult child,always show respect for the authority God has placed in your life. Each will give an account for their actions & responses to these actions. Love gently as you encourage and edify. Never embarrass another in order to be right.
For should you make it a practice to loudly exercise your parental authority in public, don’t be surprised if your adult child walks away from the situation and sadly even the relationship.

With all due respect, whether you are the parent or the adult child, would you stand there and have someone who says they love you speak to you in that manner? Maybe you are uncomfortable with the story I just shared. Maybe it hits too close to home. Maybe that parent is you. Or maybe you are that child who is also the adult ~ wondering why.

People~Life is so precious.Resolve your conflict of hearts.

Be loving. Ask yourself~Yubw8n?